THE Ponytailed GUY

FROM LAST NIGHT

What does a lifetime of ADHD, questionable choices, and a ponytail guy from Brooklyn have to do with online dating?

Turns out, everything.

The Ponytailed Guy From Last Night is a semi-scientific neurodivergent's field guide to online dating—part memoir, part survival manual, and entirely unfiltered. It's the story of Barbara's journey from Florida divorce to Manhattan walk-up, and into the wild world of dating apps at 60.

This is the manual she wished existed. Real stories, honest advice, and the permission to show up as your messy, neurodivergent self.

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Nobody Plans to End Up on Dating Apps at 60

But after decades of navigating life with ADHD—whale-shit low grades, impulsive decisions, two marriages, triplets, and a news business—Barbara found herself single in Manhattan, staring down the terrifying world of online dating.

The hyper-focus that got her through college finals? Same skill she uses to dissect dating profiles. The pattern recognition that once helped her survive school? Now spots red flags at 100 yards. Turns out, ADHD traits are actually superpowers in the modern dating landscape.

Spoiler: The ponytailed guy changed everything—but not in the way you'd think.

This Book Is For You If...

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You're Neurodivergent

Dating feels overwhelming when your brain works differently. If dating apps seem designed for neurotypical extroverts with unlimited patience, this book gets it.

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You're Exhausted by Modern Dating

Scrolling through profiles thinking "everyone is lying" or dealing with ghosting, breadcrumbing, and "I'm just not ready right now"? You need the "Fuck 'Em" philosophy.

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You Want Real Stories

No Instagram-perfect narratives here. Just honest, messy, hilarious stories from someone who's been there—and is still figuring it out.

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Barbara has been featured on several podcasts discussing ADHD, online dating, neurodivergence, and what it's really like to start over at 60 in Manhattan.

Hear the stories behind the book, the "Fuck 'Em" philosophy in action, and why the ponytailed guy deserves his own dedication.

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"If dating apps feel like they were designed for someone else—someone more patient, more photogenic, more neurotypical, more something—this book is your permission slip to show up as your unfiltered, messy, neurodivergent self. And find someone who loves that version." — Barbara Baskin Qualmann